September 2020
Here in sunny California it is 100˚ today. It’s hard to get into the “crispness of fall” frame of mind when all you want to do is stick your head into the freezer. I love the Autumn. That is, I love the Autumn that we all see in our mind’s eye thanks to commercial advertising and Hollywood. The Autumn with multi-colored leaves of orange, burgundy, green and brown, a crispness to the air, and fallen leaves being swirled by the light wind. In my mind I should be preparing for winter, knitting sweaters, putting the garden down for its winter nap, making soups and decorating with fall colored wreaths, Indian corn and gourds and snuggly quilts. But reality…100 ˚. If I am very lucky, I will get about two weeks of Fall right before Winter sets in sometime around the end of October.
This idea of a false Fall (the one I see in my mind) got me to thinking about all the other things we accept just because we are told to. Advertising in the modern age has us convinced that our teeth need to be whiter, our house a showroom and our relationships (even with teenagers) Zen. Life just isn’t like that. There are potholes and speed bumps in any relationship, houses get messy because we live in them, and sometimes life sucks. Life takes work. It can be hard. It’s real. But, it doesn't have to be overwhelming or unrealistic.
Have you built up unrealistic ideals in your head about what a relationship looks like? Do you aspire to have your house look like something you found in a magazine or on Pinterest? Do you even have time to make homemade soups from scratch? With family members trying to work (sometimes two jobs per person) and teach their children, (because, you know....Covid,) maintain a clean home (well at least sanitized, well......picked up?) and parents trying to get ahead by taking classes or maybe you're trying to learn a new skill, or advance your magickal knowledge… everyone is under a tremendous amount of pressure and stress. Add to that an unrealistic sense of what life should look like, that you can’t possibly come even close to, and you have a recipe for break-down. Break down in your relationships, your own self-worth, your spiritual beliefs, your faith, your life.
Try to set aside a little time for yourself. Recharge your batteries, do some yoga, play a board game, talk, really talk to your spouse or kids or parents, unplug. It can make a huge difference. I try to take one day a week and make it all mine. No work, no phone, no errands, no battles to fight, no souls to save, no tall buildings to leap…. nothing that smacks of responsibility. I read, I meditate, I give myself a home spa day and I reconnect with myself and with my husband. It has made a world of difference in my level of stress and it helps me remember what is real. You might not be able to give yourself a whole day, maybe all you can do is an hour, maybe all you can do is a bath. That’s ok. It’s a beginning. Life is a journey. But like any great road trip you have to remember to look at the scenery not just the road map.
Remember, slow down, breathe, stay safe, make wonderful magic and please, don’t eat the Hoodoo. (But you can take a bath in it….LOL)
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In Clovis, CA at The Open Eye
In Shingle Springs, CA at Crossroads
In Citrus Heights, CA at LightWeavers Academy
In Oroville, CA at Lunatic Fringe